Friday, 10 August 2012

How to Emotionally Handle Your Separation and Divorce

As an adult child of divorce, I know that divorce is a difficult part of divorce, the children created all kinds of negative emotions. I saw what my mother went through as a divorced woman and single parent, and I know that someone is "adult relationships, and the situation is changing as the child with the machinations of a stepson. What I saw my father and juggling family responsibilities with the divorce without his wife's understanding, which was often. In addition, separation and divorce guide with 35 years experience as a divorce attorney, I know that it's hard to feel it.This is true whether you are single, separated or surprised by notifying the initiator. They go through a separate and divorce, anger, resentment, rejection, abandonment, jealousy, betrayal, depression, envy, bitterness and sense of shared human experience. Feelings of regret and guilt are also common. This process, which is troublesome to say the least, that the tax your body and your soul. Sometimes a strong desire for revenge or retaliation for wrongs to be significant. However, only those that are not captured in the overall health of these emotions, but emotions and desires, is not only financially but emotionally as well as the cost of divorce, you can do. If you find yourself with a stay to allow the negative emotions, it poisons you, your children and you will be around.

So what can you do? How do you think you can do anything? YES. In fact, one that can be connected to the emotional experience. You can choose to stop your thoughts or let go. Your emotions are in line with your thoughts and you control your mind. All you have to do is change your mind and emotions change. I know. You said: "It is very easy to find." They just. It is not easy, but you can do it. It carries out tasks related to the quality of the decision. I hope that this release has some of the practical tools you need to change your thoughts and feelings affect you can use.

I'm not a psychologist or mental health professional. Replace consultation with a qualified mental health professional for this purpose. My practice, I regularly refer clients to what they experience as they go through the divorce process and talk to someone about. Some churches use one of the best known program, "Divorce Care." This program is designed for people who are going through separation and divorce, to provide group therapy.

Perception is reality

You can not change its position, but you can change how you see it. For example, you can better the situation. All bad things are rarely, if ever. For example, a husband, you can be happy with your wife that you no longer see the need to hang up the socks in the bathroom showers dry or wife, you are glad that you all night without sleep can hear your husband is snoring. If you are not happy about it, if you find something you're grateful. There are always blessings in your life and you are always happy to be happy. The type of person who always saw the glass half empty, my mother was very negative personu.bija. Life of my family and I believe that they are still alive today if she, instead of focusing and appreciate what they do not focus entirely on his path was found. As you move through the process of separation and divorce, well, try to find something you understand the situation.

How to deal with stress

Change is inevitable, but change is stressful. Separation and divorce and monumental change. Do you have insurance, said: "life, you're fast!" Can you divorce your wife that you are blind agent in the Party, you are experiencing stress because you go through the process. Each man faced with stressful situations. What is different is how people experience stress that they are responsible. It has been scientifically proven that you can learn how to achieve and maintain peace in troubled times, although the interior. Stanford University School of Medicine has highlighted the scientific study of the impact of the solution. Based on his ground-breaking work, it is possible, skills and techniques and apply them to the stress from your life.

Abdominal BREATHING.This Eastern yoga techniques such as meditation practices to be used. Breathing from the stomach is a simple way of stress management. Let go of your tension in your body, and practice and improve your overall health and happiness the soul signs. As you inhale, your stomach is a balloon filled with air, as you imagine. Hand in hand on your stomach when you breathe with your breath and see them increase. Your stomach relaxed exhale, and keeping your hands, slowly as you breathe and see. Several slow deep breaths to focus on your stomach rises and falls. This is a good idea to take advantage of going to bed when you're nervous anger, or feel uneasy technique. Make this part of your daily routine when you are angry or frustrated, not only in the reserve. Do you want your car when you can see the TV or sitting on your computer. How you use this method, you will realize your breathing. When your breathing becomes shallow, and use the technology instruction.

Approach and vision. How do you prove yourself, and you have a choice. If you choose to prove himself as a victim or you can prove yourself as a survivor winners. Continue to suffer until you have selected, you will focus on unhappy memories. If, instead, thank you and the people, places and things in your life, you choose to focus on the joy to the admiration of stress and anxiety and reduce your feelings of peace and tranquility will feel. Make sure you have your day of thanks and some of the things that will be included in the plan is gratitude. 15-30 second day of rest from time to time thanks to your love to someone you care about your sympathy for someone to think about or appreciate the beauty of the scene or location.

If you find a stressful situation, take some slow breaths and the third instrument of abdominal breathing, the feel of one of the following: whatever you like, beautiful, with grace, a place that works for you.

When you think about someone, you still have a good relationship with someone, be sure to use. When you think about the place, either one that is particularly beautiful, or one that is evocative of good use. Abdominal breathing improves feelings of gratitude and praise and thanksgiving.

This is a particular value, appreciation and gratitude to make good use if you are feeling unappreciated. If you are not considered due to recognition of your emotions from your mind at the ball. It is also useful when you feel overwhelmed by their responsibilities, or difficulties in their way.

Just focus your mind and emotions feel really RELAXATION.You, but your body as well. This technique will help you appreciate the difference between tension and relaxation, it is to teach you to train your body a complete rest and release stress and tension. Tensing the muscles and release process that debt helps you to relax more deeply. Convenient location, either sitting or lying in addressing. Abdominal breaths to slow down the link. With the third breath, close your right shoulder and arm and hand completely the situation for a few seconds that you have in your breaths. Slowly release your breath and relax after you complete your shoulders, arms and hands rest for rent. Repeat this process with the other parts of the body. If you like, "I am calm and at peace" or "I have all I need." I want to use the free transfer of debt

Increase self-esteem. This method may be particularly important to pursue and, if you come from abusive relationship you can. You are not good, especially the self-image. You have better things to help you get acquainted with this method, your unique abilities and skills you will understand and remember that you are praiseworthy. At the end of each day by their actions bring into force the next day. Well you do, your ability to measure performance. This reflects the kindnesses and support to help you with your day be given to other people. The average household could be that there are things that anyone can do a ton, but if any of those who did not work at home. And evaluate the things that happen to you. When you do things you criticize someone, it is particularly good, or good things, you have the right to review the day. A healthy dose of self-praise, if there is another one that is right now. Healthy indulgence of his arrogance or not, his opinions are clear and precise.

Smile. Hasatam and stress-reduction activities Laughing. This is why there are theatrical performances and movies Comic Relief. Mother of a clown on the Shakespearean tragedy, the audience for Comic Relief characters. You do not grin or laugh, and you can not feel the mood of the training, you just feel better, then smiled. Up to grin or laugh as you go through your day, try to find a justification. If you care about people, because it will greet them with a smile. As a trial lawyer, I know that people find my personality to intimidate. This is the reason why I smile, I first meet them and try to remember. What if I can because I care, but people need to know that I care. Hasatam way to display. I also have my own training materials, publications and advertisements used in the comic a lot. I stress the fact that people are going through separation and divorce, and smile, grin and a laugh is needed. Smile if you're trying to people, nine times out of ten they will come back to you Smile. If you are calling before you smile, smile though your line to the other end, one can not, you can hear your voice.

Boundaries. This is an area that I have dealt with repeat customers. How do you separate them, you're out, parental responsibilities, assets, liabilities, and the house will need to address the separation of logistics. In doing so, you will find that the old boundaries that you worked while you were married, and no longer works for you. You and your wife need and each subscription level of privacy. If your husband, the former family residence, and you may have a legal right to reenter the premises, it is a good idea for you to unexpected and at home before the agreement or a specific invitation to do without them, even if the clear aim of the visit is "child's visit." Converse is also true: If you are a former family home, your husband is the pre-treatment would be without them. When you are different, some limits are set. Setting limits is part of the "number" of anger and learning about what you want, and quietly, without - Learning to be assertive in danger without learning, no matter. If it is particularly difficult for you, you have a mental health professional can help you learn how to do so, may wish to consult. If your husband insists that it be an issue, you can say "I need time to think about it less when I can get you back? (Or tomorrow, or after I talk to my lawyer?)". When you ask the answer is no quiet and moody to try to be assertive. (For example: "I asked you not be able to help you out to go, together we could be a solution that works for both of us can get together.")

It is what is accepted. You may have heard of the peace prayer: "Lord, grant me the serenity to change the things I can, I can make things change, the courage and wisdom to know the difference." Prayer for peace is like, you can change some things. You just have to be things that were found. If your husband is not with you, you probably can not do anything. You can not make him / her that you can return. You can change the past, no, it is. You can not change the facts, they are the same. You must agree to them. In fact, you can do something about the problem. You can solve the problem. The narratives of the past. You can change the past, no. Existing and / or problems in the future belongs. The problem is somewhat under control. These problems are the result depends on whether you are now.

Therefore, your partner or your 'ex' past mistakes. If you keep looking back at what has happened or what is thought and move on to the past, accept the selection. If your "former" past mistakes, maybe you or hurt your ego, your pride or wounded, the first thing your apology 'ex'. You have to free trapped victims from where you think you are free to move. See the section on "forgiveness."

We all make mistakes: sometimes, you agree that you are a mistake. If you have the wrong person, marriage to a negative control for manipulating, intimidating, which makes your life a living hell. How many people because, for example, if they know that marriage is a wrong decision, but last consultations. Family and friends, and sometimes the highest military officials, ministers and warned them against marriage, and they did not care. You agree that you will marry this man was a mistake, and it should get your house (and your kids) can play. , Only to take responsibility and say 'I was wrong, a mistake, I changed my mind ... "

Disappointed: "Only if ..." So, you do things that your wife or your "ex" Is your child a loss, you are wrong pagātnē.Ja you regret things that contribute to separation and divorce, you need to stop indulging in grief. Sorry to indulging in guilt, unworthiness and low self-esteem makes feelings. Instead of suffering, a regular practice. After all, what it is. I agree, you can change your past, do not. Instead, ask forgiveness and try to make them, and move on with your life. If the injured party, you will be forgiven, forgive yourself and still be able to replace it. From what you can, accept the past and let it go. You can use positive affirmations, you can avoid disappointment. What is empathy and compassion, and perhaps not for the other focuses on the treatment.

An ancient ritual, how you can help move the air away from your negative emotions and find peace.

These studies are difficult to explain, or to pronounce Hawaiian words, but his life and ritual idea of ​​taking responsibility for everything that you experience to.Izvēlieties your mind you are in prison there, or you can pick it up. Think about it for a minute. I can honestly say that you have never done anything wrong or negligent? You harmful to mindless words ever spoken? You are completely free of guilt? Commission does not have you sinned? If you have not sinned mistake? You think he is wrong? You have done a wrong action? Who says that "your trespasses" What are the consequences? I remember the work. According to the Bible, Job was a righteous man. When the story opens, we learn something important about it: it is a sin he has committed sins, they may inadvertently sacrifice to let you know. People and events in your life and take charge of their lives, including accidental and unintended victims of the sins of their own work. I believe in and try it out.

God spoke a word to use for the magic formula. You just said that, starting with "Lord, I apologize for what I had thought, said or done, or think, saying it failed." Can

It has accepted responsibility, apologized to the next step, saying, "Please forgive me."

It asked for forgiveness, mercy and grace, which is correct, and to express gratitude to God for forgiveness, "Thank you, Lord."

Finally, it is not always appropriate, but only to God and to love others the creation of God to make. Hawaiian religious elements. If you do, you are at the mercy of God Almighty and with gratitude for all the blessings in your prayer and you can open it and other people to love, before you ask him for forgiveness and take responsibility. Penalty in any sequence.

Prayer every day, not if you're using, it will help you develop a good habit. Try it for a week and see what you feel your life changes. Taking responsibility for your life to the cause of anger and frustration and generally removes negative emotions associated with separation and divorce is dissipated.


Mahatma Gandhi said, "If we practice an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth, soon the world will be blind and toothless." Achieve inner peace, forgiveness, and eliminating the negative emotions associated with separation and divorce, is an important factor. This does not mean forgiving the wrong, you will continue to suffer. There is no forgiving and another person to take poison of death compared to the experience. Loop means that you refuse to forgive the past, painful events. Remember that you can not change the past, but you can change your perspective. Refuse to forgive the choice of victims. Choosing to forgive is to reject the victim of depression, anger, bitterness and negative emotions, such as freedom of choice.

ESA holiday feeling of choice. The first step is to identify adverse experiences or situations. Then you have the grace to make a choice. If you want to be free: you can choose to forgive or not forgive you. I've heard people say that they will be sorry if they do it "looks." Frankly, the difficulty that people have compassion "feelings" will not. You see, when you choose to forgive your feelings (finally) is in line with you. If you do not want to forgive, your emotions will follow your wishes. I've heard other people say, "I know about forgiveness, but may not ask if they ask me to apologize or to forgive?" And you know what? Yeah, these people would be sorry and apologized. Bear the consequences of their choice and they do not. But forgive them, for they have nothing to do with internal choice. Here's what I'm talking about increasing your own personal peace, health and wellness internal matter. You need to ask you. If you refuse to forgive extensive costs. Forgiveness is the first step in healing.

Heart choose to publish. Choose to release anger. Choose to publish the bitterness. If it is too difficult or too difficult for you, ask God to help you. God, it's hard to remember anything. God says to forgive you and publish your own weakness, and I accept what you have to ask yourself what you believe you can choose to pray.

Tolerance and acceptance are related. Which of us is complete? Who has not made mistakes? Do not be a good short-comings in the world, if we tolerate each other and accept each other as we are warts and all learned? If we set ourselves to judge others, we find that others are at least as harshly as we judge others, we will be again. God will be judged harshly us as well? Scripture says, "do not judge and you decide the size you mete out to others who meted out to you." It's much better to accept and tolerate other people. Again, the choice of topic. You, your husband or "ex" No restrictions may be adopted and to tolerate them, or you are dissatisfied with your life and dissatisfied with the short comings can lead. These limits are what they are. Do not expect them to change, but if they do, you may be pleasantly surprised. In the meantime, try to be tolerant.

Saturday, 28 July 2012

It's Time to Shine Your Light

Some of you are reading my blog. Some of you read his book. Big games need to take more responsibility, I decided it was time to shine a light inside.

I'm not special. You are the light shine.What are you going to grow as you are targeting? How other people are ignoring you and you do not know their own age. I think whatever age you are now. It's time to make some sort. Why is it important, and what is right?

Where you spend your time? It is mostly in front of television or the Internet? Other activities to escape? You need to escape, but it can be overdone. Every day you spend three hours in front of the TV, and he took one of the time devoted to something productive, if so, what could result? The following lines, written in an hour, art and creative expression through music and one hour, children or grandchildren, and one hour, your spouse or significant other with a one-hour talks, prayer and Note the use of a one-hour or an hour to build your business.

Who already are scheduled to cross back. Everything you best services you can offer? It costs time and energy is? Each activity is intended to support you? What are you able to separate us? What is really feed to feed, but, instead, why not? Do you want to go?

It's time to shine your light. This step is a time to listen. What are you doing here? People who own eyes a deep breath, a lawyer with a good attitude, take it, and says confidently. Decreases or does not play small. Do not try to scare or overwhelm. Speaking with authority.

Own light shine, which is not completely dead recently. His name was Stephen, 79 years old, he had a group. A bunch of bestseller, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People has sold 20 million copies. Learning based on book publishing and has created an empire. Stephen did not die out. Head injuries, cracked, ribs and a partially collapsed lung - he died in a bicycle accident. He lost control of the downhill ride. Workshops on leadership and has influenced almost all the speeches, a group has proposed. His light will shine long after his death.

Someday you will not. How would your career be? Here, the world would be better? Your heart, or hand you have nowhere to go with natural gas and filled with despair die happy? How to stay current? We are secular and do not know the right time of death. Let us know the exact time of our lives. It is now! Now you stop complaining and complaining and you can choose to avoid. Imagine the joy and freedom to choose the light can shine.

You bless the people of the world, and if you do not know yet - if you know that it is intended.

Thursday, 26 July 2012

How God Arrested Me - A True Story on Salvation

God arrested me completely by surprise when I was connected. It is God that I did not come to mind.

You may have a similar situation. If you have not yet saved, you believe that God is behind you and you do not need. But you need to pay attention to this point, you will hear the phone to keep in mind.

B.Sc. from the University of Zimbabwe 1991 graduation. Honors degree in economics. That death was a new experience for me, but I do not mean good, when he passed the final exam and became more confident about it.

I'm in school because of failing to obtain housing Hatcliffe, Harare, I left him in second grade when I was borrowing will be used.

After completing my degree I will return to Hatcliffe. I had saved some money from his students may benefit. I am looking for a job, but it seemed to work was beyond me. I work at the beginning of the first quarter of 1992 in that I thought the situation turned out differently. I pay my rent or buy a point and when you can feed themselves. Students without lights and other sources of income I did not do was run.

Makaza nephew by the name was clever. After seeing my plight, he invited me to stay in place. They are with his family in the apartment when the lease Eastlea was horizontal. Semi-finished house to live in the building of two Kuwadzana has been selected.

There was no money. I did not have any food. I was lucky I got to stay free cash donation is considered unsuitable for the request. So I have decided to keep his silence.

It left me alive, and now I have the most to help feel grateful.

My experience has meant so much to me. Everything that happens in the life of man is thought to have any importance.

After receiving salvation. Honestly, why are you so naive to be considered. People used to worship God, I wonder why that is. I am a Christian I thought it was wrong. I did not believe in the existence of God. It fooled me.

Smart, frankly, this request was placed in a disadvantageous position. I just did not want to attend church. I do not there!

Went to the warehouse is being used, but already knew before empted. I will work with the church service that excuse does not work I still use a clever idea, but you can. I promise to use any other reason but that does nothing but sit down and I spent my days were fully aware of that.

If I have a solution. Church spent the day looking at my shadow, will be selected. But I had no choice. Under the smart, all they did for me was do not think we are. So I said yes. However, the way I just like the "right". Imagine that.

Next Sunday at the church as smart. It was during the third quarter of 1992. Service was held at Hatfield. Great service, I can see or hear anything from. After church we went our separate ways.

"What else?" I quietly complained. I began to wonder what it wisely. To interfere in the peace began to develop a passion to think. But I accompany him. Up. I have a choice? No, I do not know what.

Something amazing happened to me during the service will be. I like the service, and neither has seen or heard anything unusual.

God works in amazing ways. If you read my story, you shone carefully what happens to me is of landowners, construction was the climax. It comes from listening to the message of faith is true.

God can speak with you. Listening to them is to provide the time you need to do this. You either Christian or non-Christians, by God's Word is relevant to their situation.

I sat down and listened. As I said, God had me arrested. I'm happy to be in jail right now. I want to get out of jail? No! In order to stay within, but not my cup of my freedom, but do not want an independent himself. My spelling, but this kind of freedom as the freedom of spiritual death is the meaning of life forever.

God bless you!

Wednesday, 25 July 2012

Small Errors Compounded Over Time, Destroys Your Potential

The combined effect is timed, well-directed effort, and the company's outstanding results in our life and is less transparent. Unfortunately, the compound effect does not work in a positive direction. Your health, career, wealth building, and eventually leave a relationship or consistency is the result of the destruction around.

Think about a difficult event of failure of poor results and a wide selection period is collected.

Due to simple negligence or wrong choice is as a result, can not be resolved immediately, compounding the negative effects of small mistakes, so do not think there is a problem. Negligence or lack of training all their lives do not affect each piece takes. We have to escape unscathed, and we escaped any immediate result is expected.

Gradually a soft, is the result of negligence
Read the book for the last ninety days, it seems futile.

That's where the real danger lies in our future success., Every night sitting in front of television entertainment, instant gratification, to death itself felt at the time of our day is helping avoid.

Repeat isolation and destruction spells bad choices
Unfortunately, we again stress the reasons for this behavior, we must stop the situation.This cycle repeats each year and the year we will be stuck.

Enjoy the moment, watching television, we are keeping our prisoners for the release of the negative cycle of change can be avoided, while it makes me feel good. Our situation has worsened, the notice will result in future stranded.

Reed immediately, and negligence and poor choice of timing is complex and complex, but the overall effect is a result of the negligence are rare.Wrestle back control of your life in a positive way, and if you start with the complex effects may be reversible cycle.

The decision to reverse the cycle of improvement
Formula for failure in life always some opposition to normalization is applied to study, you can create a formula for success.

How to change the way you see your future to achieve is to change our philosophy.

You get to live the future today is the result of your actions.
Your future success or failure appears, or the future consequences of today is not your job.You will be caught in public life.

Keep them away from the point of fault is present and correct assessment of the future. Development and a few small almost meaningless once you apply the new rules based on success, at some future point you want to go.

Positive results - a reasonable period of time will be within
The report focused on your future, and future results results'm'm trying to focus on. A new study carried out daily to a new level of vitality and to feel satisfied and will begin implementing their rehabilitation. Positive results began to appear in your life and to provide a new level of confidence to be.

Introducing a new discipline in your life, what do you think will help move the real magic occurs in. It's a matter of life began to return, now is not only living life is not satisfactory. The first day of new life, with a little effort, and that is trapped in mediocrity, and the deadly destructive dream a conscious effort to change habits. Several new studies apply to your life every day to commit. These are tiny little bit of magic to compensate for positive change will be well worth the effort.

Monday, 2 July 2012

Be Awake And Let Your Dreams Come True

Every day, you want to go where you want to live in awareness? Or day, week, month and year, and I think in your life passed without destination are you doing?

Right now you'd like to wake up.

I want to be responsible for your opinion

Nateneune you know What do you think about.

As the winner, you think? You achieve it and how do you think of what to do.

Or what about looser?

Without waiting for the results achieved are happy, people will like you more events.

I'm saying is not responsible for you and with whom have you spend time talking

It's five people on average spend most of the time we have been told. With five people you think it sends most of their time. Are some people their lives?

You can learn to spend time with. Inspiration and encouragement to spend time with people who challenge.

I am responsible to achieve your dreams and visions.

To begin with, you know you will be dreams and visions. If not, just pick up a pen and paper to write them. Mithasigi vision of your dreams take time to think when you are spending.

His dreams and visions can be shared with family and friends.

Baby steps to move, but unless you work on them every day is your victory.

Find out the next director does not say.

Max Albert Einstein, insanity, doing the same thing and expecting a different result to the definition.

So I say to you: If you do the same thing you are always on top, you will always get what you get.

What you do not start now, while waiting, do not wait.

Good luck.

Saturday, 30 June 2012

Discovering the Purpose of Our Lives

"You were born an original. Don't die a copy."
~John Mason

Unfortunately, life is a key reason that we are disappointed. I can hear it clearly. Or other part of life, in fact we often have an appetite for life. By instinct, we drink and jealousy. And we seem helpless against it.

However, the originality of the flow of our spirit with a chance to fight.

First, we must know the essence of originality. Then we discovered the barriers to have their approval.

Past studies

An individual, we became a nation.

We have to bear all things, we have established in the spirit of coexistence.

Because we bear the shame of what happened there is no foundation for a sustainable recovery. If we as a small builder, the construction of our childhood, our parents and guardians about the project was not part with. May depend on various elements of the play. The sense of shame among the healthiest upbringings anything: none of our parents fault that they were not perfect. In addition, we are born broken.

In order to achieve internal and disappeared there, if you accept that it is necessary to move forward relevant.

The financial success

Perhaps this exercise, we need to exercise regularly. Unique history and personality fit our definition of success is to create a great work. It is important that evidence is used to determine the behavior of

Who we are reviewing the essence of creativity, we accept, as we are, what we know is ideally placed.

Pick a good life is the goal of life. Are all the same tasks. We, or our goal to find that we are clear about who has endorsed. Our aim in the right side of the road when we are successful.


We are not carbon copies. All life is an occasion for a particular purpose.This is life!

I know that if we were successful? But we can conclude the answer.

But we can tell. All we can do.

Saturday, 5 May 2012

Dealing With Adversities

You have thought about such issues as infinite? Your life's adversities with you every step of the recession and do you think? If so, you're not alone! A wise man once passed through our pain and hurt is inevitable, but suffering is optional, he said. Your pain and suffering depends on the people around you will be charged in order to determine the amount.

This is one way, the problem is an indication of

If you are constantly faced with adversity, some are symptoms of deeper problems. You recently lost your job and find devastating. But you are comfortable and accurately reflect that you lose it? How did you get supplies? You just choose a job from the beginning? Your love as if you have a sick, find out why the disease. Unhealthy lifestyle you're leading? What is the installation? Or is it the attitude? Unless you solve the problem we will face a similar situation.

Unfortunately, you are taught valuable lessons

We are leading a fast life. We are all around us, almost without pausing people Thank you for stopping. Our treasure is an issue frequently consciousness, has been overlooked in our everyday lives. Finance, money and material wealth is more important than ourselves, our families, friends, and our health are included. It recognizes the importance of our health and staying in school is a disease makes us humble. We value life and death, while the family circle has posted an unexpected loss. It captures the superficial things, but you do not want to learn it through the challenges of life issues are important.

Your Guide to the Issues

Many times, adversities, and it knocks you have to change the way that the time had come to mean. For example, to blame (or men) and it ttunghaeitda about leaving your loved ones, silly self.

Confucius said: "I meet the high performance radio until people complain that never had any shoes," he said. Too much meaning is the same. Instead, you keep the focus on happiness and well despite all the difficulties with their problems because the steel he said.

In times of adversity that we face, knocked down. Here some ways to the recovery phase of their life on the terms of the status, position, or has the disadvantage of my own.

A. Is still growing - "A righteous man falls seven times, but he rises again," he is one of the favorite sayings I reflected many times in this passage having a difficult time when. And that their role continues to re-think about spending that is not determined by the fall of way, but time does not increase

Two. Remember who you are - it's who you refuse to lose vision is very important.

3 deuleogalryeo that you do not you worry that in a bottle, but instead it must face and respond to. Friends and family and share your enthusiasm and willingness to supply problems. The journey of life, let alone do not live in.

4 .. Mainly based on performance in today's culture, you see their performances suggest that an independent. Finally, what most of you, I might think. See themselves in the perfect light.

5 More is absorbed in thought, but can not keep on going. It is easy to get more resistant.

Wednesday, 11 April 2012

Growing Invisibly?

Self-made men and women, all of us, but it's only achievement is a credit perspective. - Darren Hardy

How long does it take to change

If I do not know who they are, but all the experts, it is about habit formation is called to pick 30 to 21. The auto pilot program on the back of the brain's subconscious mind, maybe he needs time to start hacking, or because it takes so long to brain synapses, we think you might be one reason.But the worst part is most people that long to go deal with all the consistency and patience has never been attracted to?

You will come to the library

Of course, we immediately gratification, and this is part of the claim that there is a world of welcome. Some research will benefit you or your bike so bad, come on, when I have a question, a public library for books on this subject go. Google can now answer immediately sit on the couch. Improve speed, but it is certainly beneficial, careful process by which I am sacrificing my experience, the search is developed.

The value of new agricultural

It is about how modern farming? Insects and worms from the ground so hard and far. It's a huge amount of hard work and perseverance are needed.Sounds like a great evolution of agriculture, but at any cost?

Changes expected returns

First, we consider small features and evolutions of our study point to progress and how often all that is good or worst case, how can we stop right after the worst to take,? Let's first note that the change is actually related to patients. And are usually brown in color change, he is constantly moving. The man, regardless of the obstacles on the agenda, and will apply. Equal opportunity seeker is changing.

Radiation of the protesters and stone

If most unwelcome insects caught in the comfort zone and change them because they will be hurt in any format that is rebellion. Rather than embrace themselves, but they will throw stones. They rant and rave, but appeared suddenly, or there was a sudden change in time out, really was hiding in plain site?

Combined effect

So what is it? Darren Hardy's new book, cleverly combined effect is. I remind you, Make a big change, a small distinction. Apparently simple changes and make awards based on his decision to come in the form of small blocks U.S. dollars a day you never get anywhere, saving is a big problem. You'll end up without the least appearance of fatty foods will not be out yet, eat.

Thanks to Shakespeare

"You all are constantly changing, we are complex, see the change. Parking lot just to prevent any changes will not be called comfortable zone. Finally, almost invisibly, then get up and move rapidly, so for better decision making, or you just do not like places I can understand over time!

Tuesday, 20 March 2012

Resiliency: A Radical Redefining For Turbulent Times

Consider the events of 10 years

Unexpected results and the stock market gyrates heartburning. Strong corporate balance sheets and straw figures before the icons. Yards in front of them and have a worldwide network of terrorists spiral child is abducted. El Niño is a strange fish from the coast of California, while religious institutions cast a shadow of a duality. Fire to digest Texas, Colorado outside the control of large swaths. But through the Midwest and Southern tornadoes. the northeastern part of Japan tsunami devastates coastal apocalyptic proportions.

It is all the universe, "standing like a deer in headlights meombeuleuro," one always "a falling, or in the spring should be sufficient to generate a different behavior, the latter can be repaired knee, but is often in the past, our snob reaction-based has the problem is that it does not look like it's haunted.

Whether you have a Fortune 100 company, is dominated by small regional or enterprise - whether you want to reinvent your career, launching new products, or defraud the parent and the child's age, demand, elasticity elasticity radical ability was more important than ever.

First term is defined.

Dictionary definition is discarded. 1824 Webster, "especially the size and shape of the body's ability to recover due to the compressive stress and strain, tense," he defines the elasticity of the human system, he praised or metal work for an organization's ability to define. This definition defines the two words gives rise to the popularity of "return."

No! No! Ever! Feel comfortable going back to its original state, but individuals and organizations may be denied the chance to develop. In a world of constantly changing old habits, old structures, and returning to the old behavior may be the opposite in fact productive.

Second, the Webster's definition of stress, time or crisis situation that requires a lot of flexibility in the means. It is not.

Now throw the word "fundamentalists" means "high" resiliency when you are ready to change all that remain in a right means that the course is unknown courage, patience and means.

Other: To develop adaptability skills.


Adaptability requires a general knowledge challenge. Important question: Why? What if? Who said so?

For example, years ago, a comprehensive report for up to three months were distributed widely throughout the day Ameritech employees. The next question, "Why are we?" "Who reads it?" He was just a few pages and read, he has found something.

Blind spots of our personal and professional, we want to find my own courage comes into play when. We are humans and humans may be important considerations do not want to hear. I'm seeing eye dog to find the leaders recommended. In a nutshell, a guide dog will really see what is happening. All organizations on the ground, people, what is happening "reference" person. Unfortunately, you can remove the request input from management should be considered. Only one week's season will tell the operator of the plant retired.

However, the company decided to remove the bomeulreul while at the same time, the total length is now selling bottled water. It is reframing.

Pauline, her husband, Bill, brilliant only in nuclear physics, the ravages of Alzheimer's disease may be due to loss of economic penalties. Pauline, "At least he and his shining spirit of peace, and researchers can provide some clues." Commented Reframing.

Adaptability is about thoughts and feelings. Agility, on the other hand, is about action and movement.

The third is to develop agility skills.

Agility is the ability to move easily and quickly. Two nimbleness, flexibility, speed means. These multiple functions to create a mental thing. It is one thing to move forward. This behavior is an antidote to anxiety.

The truck is to move wisely. It may take a longer analysis paralysis. Instead, the strong personal and organizational data, small steps can be performed. Take action appropriate feedback. Take risks and act, and the results were shared desire to focus on compensation.

Action is also reported physical activity. In other words, pay attention in the human body. The increasing demand in the interest of exercise, sleep, nutrition challenges and opportunities. Sometimes, they can take a big step backs. Fresh mind and a good opportunity for creativity and innovation.

Sometimes, when faced with feelings of powerlessness, a sense of some of these controls can be very useful. Another company caught in the grip of the recession, workers cut costs without cutting the number of people together to learn how to . Part-time employees from any funds in order to volunteer you can continue to work with them.

Fourth: to develop technologies capable of laughter.

Victor Borge "two minimum distance between people is a smile." This is the minimum distance of the brain and body. In fact, a sense of humor and playfulness of creativity you can find the ability to make improvements. Of course, separated from a common, serious and laugh a little.

In Chile the memory of the destruction. Against all odds, they were stored adaptability (a more professional and a lot of precautions to hear) and agility answer was I when I had my camera miners visit to his "home", they card and meeting performance showing the location of the table. Fitting was reduced to playing the national anthem of the heartfelt video of a man who is locked up.

Laughter is the ability to play inside. It uses a non-threatening way, and soon is some humor and funny old game.

"Sport is a celebration of possibilities" - Martin Buber.

Fifth: the sort of technology development.

In a remote part of western India in 2008 and the town to visit an ancient monastery, the Himalayas and trekked.

Depending on the needs of human beings, seohapnida. Victor Frankl said, "we can do it, some people even living things." Flexible people and people who will be more. Alignment guide adaptability.

Sixth: looking energizes.

Finally, his expertise is the current flowing through the human energy. Energy efficiency and the possibility of a connection that triggered even more meaningful catalyst for growth is the result of the speed. Think about it as it is across the four skills as a result of energy weaves, and received the maximum energy of the DNA molecule is generated.

Wednesday, 15 February 2012

Learned Helplessness - Can You Fix It?

Suiteo learned helplessness that life skills can prevent you from achieving. You may not even realize what the problem is.

In the 50s I got back this morning I read about their experiences. Some of the dogs is a floor and put them in a cage as a means of delivering a mild electric shock is possible. Cage was a switch. When this switch is pressed, an effect has been closed. Cage effect in the dog soon learns to stop.

A dog used to a different cage so there was no way to avoid an attack was happening.

Save half of the second floor and used a randomized, has a mild electric shock, a half-cage was placed in the bottom part. Low barrier separating the two halves. Dogs learn very quickly switch to use and jump over obstacles remain safe.How can I force it to face trial, a very short space of time is learned.

Environment while maintaining a certain way you can feel it.Some will cause more stress. However, the normal switch operation for animals is difficult to move, but the curiosity and desire for self-protection is still active.

This is a very simple, but does not correlate human behavior. Depression, anxiety, uncontrollable stress learned that all results are attached.can be impossible.

But nothing's changed.

People get upset when things go wrong, there is a tendency to blame themselves. Loss was the death of another teacher, so students are not anywhere near where you will see a failed test can be their fault. Learn about depression, helplessness, because it's a great length of time due to the recent trend as a way to control your emotions are not allowed. You always feel better because less energy is not a motivation and drive, if life does not work. It was even worse when you give. However, because you lose, it's a solution that is easy to maintain looks.

Learned helplessness that you are in a state of despair is not required. You need to have dreams, life circumstances or things that he has solved once and for text recognition can not afford.

I leave this state in a simple way to start.

It is learned behavior, then you still have the ability to learn new behaviors. I believe the lack of encouragement from your account if you do something really different is not easy and should not be any harm in it.

All you have to do is be able to control their own destiny because it is rediscovered.

The easiest way to choose which one is easy.

Choose things that you laugh instead of cry, you look for something on TV,

Each book is inspired by the author chose to read the sentence.

Select to tea or coffee.are white, if you want your sugar, without sugar if you want black, so please when there

Sun or rain for a walk to choose.

Stop reading this and choose instead to more interesting things.

A simple choice.

All you have to select any one day are aware of. Each time an option is already selected. This is not a choice because it is not.

Small jobs can complete their sets. So you can enjoy a little success, to create an easy task. Even with a good sense, and again a little success, the more loyal you are happy living the way.

Wednesday, 25 January 2012

The Time To Act on Any Suitable Opportunity Is Now

The information will be able to cross paths, and therefore, it is agreed, your experience and judgment to explore every opportunity to build, it can be done if time and energy to invest in exploring new opportunities. It analyzes the options and save valuable time is much easier to cube, if you have a very clear picture you get what you want. Fill your life or business using a clear understanding of what very quickly, to help you decide, or worth your time and energy will not be an option.

The idea of ​​law is still attractive
The winner, therefore, can be used to provide time and the only path that runs through the options to ignore a lot of energy, the arts become a great opportunity to learn, and will. The idea for an immediate action, but still attractive, and strong emotions, and to determine a viable option.

Very long, well before the new opportunity is not worth the time and energy, which no doubt if you fall prey to the decision to act now, "the law is intended to reduce." You start immediately and we, we are committed to creating a clear image and a plan to achieve the desired result will be able to create. Step in the process as soon as possible to begin with, it's dark before you start is a good idea.

Great ideas are often inspired by new ideas and high while mortality due to lack of significant action taken. C is not good intentions into action very quickly and needs and quiet passion.

Based on these results, consistent discipline in your life, every day, will realize his true and based on the following day inspired to take action. For all studies, dedication, passion, emotion, and capture the wisdom of this age, and continued to return to action on long-term process can be unstoppable.

Proceedings of the ability to create a new procedure
The secret to you and your business very quickly, as each option, daily news, including training and the rapid success of the success of a new tradition, such as is needed to You promote a sustainable long-term success, began to learn the new process. Foundation of training, self-esteem and self worth and a great success and the creative genie is the best of friends. Check the desired results of their action plan into reality required to implement all the studies, based on a 5, and will be a dream or a real business, we remain committed to do.

Simply provides the best daily, continuously agree to build self-esteem. How to take care of a little every day, what we want to achieve in agreement with the results, one more day, his time training is committed to improving. For sustainable success gradually build an unshakable foundation. To celebrate your life when you need to achieve business objectives, including the construction of training every day for the next few years, the labor required to keep the almost magical, surprising, and feel the effort is successful.